Why “Differentiate” is a Dirty Word
By Danielle On June 5, 2007
Under Branding, Business, Marketing, Personal Branding
The message from the marketing gurus is clear – differentiate or die. We’re told that if we don’t get our very own Unique Selling Proposition then we’re either going to drop dead or live out our days as a wallflower. Not a pretty diagnosis either way.
Now that I’ve cheered you up, let’s consider why finding that “point of difference” is so difficult for many small business owners, and what steps we can take to point us in the right direction.
I’m inquisitive and like to investigate, so the question I asked myself was: why do so many businesses mirror each other? Here’s what I think:
Because we spend our whole lives being rewarded for being just like everyone else.
In other words, conformity is in. In fact, we’re spoon-fed it every day of our lives. From our school years right through to our professional and social lives, we are taught to “fit in”. So is it any wonder when Joe Average steps into the land of brand ownership that he just falls into line with the crowd? Why would he suddenly want to be different? When you really think about it, how uncomfortable would that feel? The answer is, very.
In my experience, the currency of conformity is Acceptance, by that very important crowd – the status quo. Individuals who rebel (those misfits who do things differently, and particularly those who think differently) are frequently punished; usually by being ostracized. Anyone know what I’m talking about?
But hey, look on the bright side – once upon a time they chopped people’s heads off for being a dissenter, so if you were a misfit and the only thing you copped was being ostracized then consider yourself lucky. In all seriousness, the fundamental thinking behind this mindset hasn’t changed in our sophisticated modern age – only the degrees of punishment have.
So we have ourselves a paradox. While our modern world of commerce clearly operates on a natural law of differentiation for survival, our social order still operates from an almost opposite set of principles. Just consider the use of the words in the two realms:
In the business world “differentiation” is divine. The word is used in a highly positive context. “Unique” is in.
Meanwhile, back in society, when someone is referred to as “different”, it has a negative connotation. As much as we hate to admit it, “Conformity” is in.
The Natural Effect of a Conformity Mindset
In his free e-book, Differentiate or Diminish: The Art and Necessity of Business Positioning, SBB contributor Kevin Levi tells us that, “many companies today fall into the trap of utilizing overused or meaningless words to describe what they do”. Warning that this doesn’t work, he offers a list of “trite” words to avoid.
So why do we naturally gravitate toward trite words? Because they’re familiar; they feel safe and comfortable.
It’s difficult for many brand owners to differentiate because unless they’re comfortable and experienced with being a misfit, or standing out from the crowd, it first requires a shift in their thinking pattern.
If any of this is ringing true for you, and you’re a bit stuck on how to go about “differentiating” yourself, here’s my tip:
First Things First
Get uncomfortable.
They say all change starts from within. For things to change, first I must change.
If you’re stumped about how to differentiate your brand, then perhaps start by taking a look at your own personal patterns. Are there any areas in your life where you’ve just blended with the crowd? Take an honest look. In what areas might you be living in Status Quo City? Sure, relocating to Individual Island may be difficult at first, but you’re bound to fall in love with your new outlook.
I believe that when you dig deep and find your own uniqueness, the road to differentiating your brand will be paved for you. All you have to do then is walk it. It may not be easy, but it is simple.
And let’s face it, if the marketing gurus are right (and we know they are), then it’s either get uncomfortable or get used to being a wallflower. No pain, no gain.